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🎯 17 Creative Targeted Resumes That Got Quick Job Interviews
These job seekers made resumes that recruiters couldn't ignore.
Many people see job search as a numbers game: if you apply to enough companies, you'll eventually get hired.
The consequences of that strategy range from the boredom of a repetitious application process, to getting few responses from recruiters, to not feeling any progress in general and ultimately, taking the first offer that comes along, often from a company that you have no clue if you want to work at.
Instead, smart job seekers research a few potential employers and roles as early as possible in their job search, and then focus on them directly. It makes a lot more sense.
At the very least, they'll create a targeted resume, meaning a resume that's tailored for each employer and job opening.
You might think that would be enough, but some job seekers take it to another level and tailor their entire job search for the job they want. They put it in a lot more work up front, but when done well, the odds of getting more and better recruiter responses goes up a lot.
Here are 17 examples of job seekers who did just that.
Note: There is a poll embedded within this post, please visit the site to participate in this post's poll.17 examples of creative resumes that recruiters loved
1) GQ Magazine
What they did: To impress the Editor-in-Chief of the UK version of GQ magazine, Sumukh Mehta made a 20-page resume styled just like an actual edition of GQ. It took him more than 3 weeks to make.
Did it work? YES. It worked so well, he was offered a job immediately, without even being interviewed.
2) Wieden + Kennedy New York
What they did: Copywriter Chase Zreet loves Sprite and wanted to work on their ad campaign, run by Wieden + Kennedy New York. To get their attention, he sent in a cover letter like any other job seeker… except that his cover letter was a video of him rapping about Sprite and why he could write great ads for it.
Did it work? YES. The video has almost 1M views and Zreet started working at Wieden+Kennedy in April 2018.
3) SlideRocket
What they did: When Hanna Phan saw a job opening at SlideRocket (now part of ClearSlide), she used their own product to make a “presentation resume” video about why she would be a great fit. Her story went viral and inspired others.
Did it work? YES. She was hired as a Product Manager at SlideRocket in September 2011. Not only that, but 2 months later, SlideRocket announced “Présumés”, presentation templates that make it easy for job seekers to copy Hanna's idea. Reading between the lines, it sounds like the company loved her idea so much, they hired her to create the product for others.
4) Amazon
What they did: To get a job at Amazon, Philippe Dubost put his resume online, making it look like he was a product being sold on Amazon.
Did it work? YES. Two months, 1.5M visitors, a lot of online coverage and 150 (that's 1-5-0) job offers later, he decided to join a startup called Birchbox. He then updated the resume to say that he's currently unavailable.
5) Google
What they did: Eric Gandhi wanted a job as a designer for Google, so he designed his resume to look like a Google search results page and sent it in.
Did it work? YES. “Within 30 minutes of applying with this resume for a designer position on Google’s website, Eric got a call for an interview and was offered a marketing position in the end” which he rejected because it wasn't design-oriented enough. However, after also posting the resume on his website, it went viral, attracting interviews from employers and he quickly got hired.
6) Google (2)
What they did: Matthew Epstein wanted to work at Google so badly that he created a website called “Google, please hire me. Matthew Epstein.” with the above video resume.
Did it work? YES. While Google did interview him, they didn't hire him. However, his video went viral, getting over 450K views and attracting over 80 interview offers. It took him only 3 weeks to accept his dream job offer at a San Francisco-based startup.
7) Pinterest
What they did: To get Pinterest's attention, Jeanne Hwang Lam put her tailored resume online in the form of the ‘JEANNE | for Pinterest!' pinboard.
Did it work? YES. Pinterest contacted her, and although they didn’t hire her, her pinboard resume did net her job offers from other companies.
8) Instagram
What they did: Alice Lee wanted a job at Instagram so badly that she created DearInstagram.byAliceLee.com, a website showing a combination cover letter/resume infographic explaining what she would bring to the company.
Did it work? YES. Instagram founder Kevin Systrom called Alice, and although they didn't hire her, the viral buzz she generated directly led to a job at another company.
9) Airbnb
What they did: After spending a year playing the numbers game mentioned above and applying for hundreds of openings and getting nowhere, Nina Mufleh changed her strategy. Her “goal was to focus on only one result: getting a job with a high impact team where I can do really cool work.” She aimed for Airbnb by building a website where she analyzed the global tourism market and suggested where Airbnb should focus next. And of course, the site was styled to look like a page on Airbnb.com.
Did it work? YES. Nina4Airbnb went viral, attracting dozens of job interviews including with Airbnb. Although she was disappointed by them, she quickly got hired at Upwork.com (one of the top freelance marketplaces online).
10) Quiksilver
What they did: Hoping to get a job at surfing company Quiksilver, Thomas Groc created his online resume by copying the look of the company's official website.
Did it work? YES, Quiksilver invited Thomas to a job interview.
11) Innocent
What they did: Onja Lola Delezinier applied for a marketing internship at French juice company Innocent by making her resume look like one of their bottle labels. She then dropped off the bottle and a paper CV at their offices.
Did it work: NO, at first. Although Innocent were impressed by what she did, they had no marketing job openings at the time.
However, Lola persisted…
What they did: a few months after her first attempt to get an internship at Innocent France, Onja Lola Delezinier tried again. This time, she parodied one of their juice cartons with her resume information.
Did it work? YES. This time, she did get an interview but she wasn't offered a job.
12) Ogilvy & Mather
What they did: Aiming for a job at advertising agency Ogilvy & Mather, Saaniya Abbas created a website with an animated resume with lots of positive words around the name “Ogilvy”.
Did it work? YES and NO, according to her LinkedIn profile. Her animated resume was featured in many places online and it's around that time she changed jobs, so it seems that the buzz did help her get another job.
13) Darewin PR
What they did: Benoit Finck said that “when entertainment agency Darewin called for applications asking to be entertained, I put together a supercut of their main clients to introduce myself.”
Did it work? YES. The video went viral but more importantly, he “got to work with the agency on various freelance projects.”
14) Michel & Augustin
What they did: To apply for a job as an Event Coordinator at the famous French cookie company, Margaux Barre organized an event AT the company: the tasting of a massive cookie she baked for them.
Did it work? YES, she was interviewed after the event by their head of HR, although she ultimately didn't get hired.
15) Bortársaság
What they did: To apply for a job at Bortársaság, a Hungarian wine distribution company, Bernadett Baji had a designer friend arrange her CV as a label for one of their wine bottles.
Did it work? YES, she was interviewed and hired by the company.
16) Sherry Design Studios
What they did: To apply for a design internship at Sherry Design Studios, Hannah Hughes created a unique CV based on the company's slogan: “Creativity means nothing if it doesn’t hit the target.” A USB key in the shape of an arrow, it contains her resume as an animated presentation, including a personalized message for their recruiter Chris.
Did it work? YES. Their creative director contacted her right away and was very interested in having her as an intern, but she received a full-time job offer in parallel and she accepted that job instead.
17) Partners + Napier
What they did: Taira Perrault researched Partners + Napier and discovered that CEO Sharon Napier loves basketball, so she sent in her resume attached to a small basketball game.
Did it work? YES. Napier loved the idea and Taira was later hired as an associate art director.
What makes a good creative, targeted resume?
Some takeaways from these fantastic resumes:
1) Having the creative resume go viral was often a key condition to getting many job interview invites quickly
2) Getting the creative resume to go viral means doing something original and/or executing really well, and even then it's not guaranteed to happen
3) Even if the creative resume goes viral, it's not guaranteed to lead to job offers, but you will get a lot of attention and job interview invites
4) The creative resume can still work even if it doesn't go viral if highly and accurately targets a key hiring decision maker
5) The best creative resumes are ones that show off your expertise at the skills the potential employer cares about most
How can you create your own creative, targeted resume?
Nina Mufleh's Nina4Airbnb website has a downloadable whitepaper explaining in detail how she created and managed her campaign, and there are lots of good ideas there to inspire you.
Question of the article
Which of these resumes is your favorite and why? Do you know of any others we should add to the list? Tell us in the comments.
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How to Handle Sentimental Clutter
Many people, when they first hear about minimalism, or as they begin their own personal journey towards it, typically run into this question: What do I do with the sentimental things I’ve collected over the years?
It is a question I am asked often. And an important one.
Here is my advice:
1. Remember that less is different than none.
No one is saying that you have to get rid of everything you have an emotional attachment to—but I do think you will find benefit in owning less.
Here’s what I mean by that: When my wife’s grandmother passed away a number of years ago, she came home with a small cardboard box of things collected from her grandmother’s apartment—items that reminded her of her beloved grandma. We then promptly put that cardboard box in the basement and would only notice it when we were cleaning up the basement—which rarely happened.
After we found minimalism and began getting rid of the stuff we didn’t need, we eventually ran into this cardboard box in the basement. When we did, my wife asked herself, “Okay, what am I going to do here?”
Eventually, she decided she would keep three things from the box, the three things that “most represented her grandmother.” She kept a candy dish. She kept a lapel pin, and she kept a Bible. The candy dish is now in our living room, and we see it every single day. The pin, she put on one of her coats, and she wears it occasionally. The Bible, she put in her nightstand next to her bed.
And now, because we own fewer things, they have brought a greater sense of value to that relationship. These items, now being used, serve as a more faithful reminder to us of her grandmother and her influence on Kim’s life. Less became better than more. This is often the case with sentimental belongings.
2. Your memories do not exist in the item.
The memories we cherish exist in our minds, they exist in our hearts and our souls, not in physical objects.
In our heart is where the memories live, where the influence of the person resides, or the accomplishment surrounding an event takes root. When we remove an item, we think sometimes we’re removing the memory—but we aren’t. The memories remain.
You may find it helpful to take a picture of the item before you get rid of it, just so you can look back and prompt that memory. But removing the item is not going to remove the memories.
3. Our emotional attachment to things can actually provide motivation for owning less.
Think of the sentimental things, and the things you have an emotional attachment to. They typically represent one of three things: 1) They represent an important relationship; 2) They represent an important accomplishment; or 3) They represent an important experience… so you bought the t-shirt to bring home with you.
These, you see, are the activities that add meaning, and purpose, and significance to our lives. Our relationships, our accomplishments, and our experiences. This is where the value of life resides.
But if all the things we’ve accumulated over the years are keeping us from relationships, accomplishments, experiences, then we should get reduce the number of things we own. Remove the burdens that are holding us back from those experiences, so we can enjoy even more of the things that mean the most to us.
Lastly, keep in mind, if you are beginning on your path to minimalism, and sentimental things is where you’re starting, you are going to have a hard time.
Let’s start easy, okay? Get rid of some of the things you know you don’t need. Go through your closet. Or go through your kitchen.
Begin removing some of the possessions you know don’t need to be a part of our life anymore. Remove those, and as you do, you’ll find increased motivation to own less. You’ll learn the lessons that will equip you perfectly for when you do get to these sentimental things—and you’ll be far more equipped to handle them effectively when you do.
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Minimalism. It’s About More Than Clutter.
Note: This is a guest post by Emma Scheib of Simple Slow & Lovely.
Embarking on a decluttering and minimizing endeavor can be difficult. In fact, it can be downright scary at times. This is because minimalism isn’t just about your stuff—it’s also about your why. Why you accumulated so much in the first place. And this is a difficult encounter for anyone.
Once upon a time, I was a shopaholic. Uncomfortable in my own skin, I attempted to reclothe myself in whatever the latest fashion was, choosing clothes as a second skin to boost my confidence. In my early twenties, purchasing one or two new items of clothing a week was pretty normal.
And although I always felt great in a new outfit, the feeling never lasted. The temporary boost of confidence was just replaced by a bulging wardrobe. When I decided to minimize my possessions a few years ago the thought of working through these piles of clothing I’d accumulated was overwhelming.
Because it wasn’t just the clothes I had to sort through.
If I wanted to make a lasting change to a tidier, smaller wardrobe, I had to deal with why I’d accumulated so much in the first place. And as it turns out, my why was connected to my self-worth. The reason I found solace in shiny new things was that they made me feel accepted.
Acceptance of myself has never come easy and the lack of it stems from my start to life. Being given up for adoption at birth is something that has always tainted my worldview.
At the heart of many shopping trips was my limbic brain response to being given away. It was my inner baby, clawing at something, anything to prove my right to exist. If I looked good, I would be wanted, and not discarded.
Underneath our piles of belongings, we hide fears, loneliness, and insecurities. Behind a bulging wardrobe and piles of shoes, a fear of never being loved or even liked might be lurking. Beneath a pile of impulse homeware purchases, an overwhelming anxiety might be hiding.
Clutter and excess are rarely the root of a problem, they are the result. Even worse, the clutter compounds the problem, causing further stress and anxiety.
This is important to understand.
We can declutter all we want, making our homes magazine-worthy, but until we yank out the roots of what’s caused us to accumulate stuff in the first place, we’ll have little chance of making a permanent change. We’ll just wind up back at square one, surrounded by stuff that adds no value to our lives. A kind of decluttering Groundhog Day.
You can make a permanent change in your life, to minimize your belongings, but only if you deal with the roots.
Where does one start?
Identify Your Emotions
Begin by noticing what you feel when you reach for your credit card. Awareness of the driving forces behind these purchases is an important first step. It took me awhile to realize that I was trying to fill emotional spaces when I went shopping. But once I named the emotions, it became easier to forgo shopping trips.
It might take months of just noticing the reasons you accumulate before you feel ready to make changes. But when you do…
Engage With Your Emotions as You Declutter
At the heart of my bulging wardrobe was pain from feeling unworthy. I had to engage with this pain and move through it as I decluttered. This doesn’t mean that I still don’t feel the pain. But now that I’ve recognized this emotion as a trigger, I’m less likely to add to my wardrobe and find it easier to simplify.
What do you feel looking at your piles of belongings?
Do you feel anxious? Anxiety about what you might need in a hypothetical future will stop you in your decluttering tracks. People hold onto items ‘just in case’, thinking they won’t be able to afford to replace it if they need it again. This is where community toy and tool libraries can help. When our girls are done with their toys, I donate them rather than keeping them for the grandchildren. I know when that time arrives, I can visit the toy library instead of the attic.
Do you feel lonely? If your trigger to purchasing (or keeping) items is loneliness, try connecting with others. Many of us are surrounded by people but still feel incredibly alone. Make a phone call to someone whose voice you need to hear. Ask someone to join you on your daily walk or meet someone for coffee. Ironically, the upkeep of these piles of belongings is often what keeps us from making and keeping meaningful connection with others.
Do you feel stressed and overwhelmed? Some of us have lived decades without curating our possessions. In our never-ending busyness, we lack time and energy to spring clean, let alone declutter. Find a way to drop one or two things off your to-do list and calendar this week. Decluttering does take time, but you can find it if you’re intentional.
Take Care of Yourself
Whatever it is that’s hiding under your piles of clutter, tread carefully. Take the best care of yourself possible during this process. Take regular breaks to do things that fill you back up. It might be reading a book, taking a bath, or going for a long walk. These difficult emotions, the pain, the insecurities, the worry and the sadness, they need your tender loving care as you move them gently aside.
I’ve gone through several large purges of my possessions over the last few years. I’ve swept through my home twice, each time getting rid of over 500 items. And last year, when we prepared to rent our house out, I took several car loads to our recycling center. Each time, the process got easier. Each time, I’m a little more confident and a little less fearful of looking under the rug to check what’s hiding.
I’m inching my way towards a curated and intentional life with less of what I don’t need and more of what I want.
As I’ve become more aware of my insecurities and found other ways to cope with difficult emotions, it’s become easier to let go of things. I don’t need a new outfit for every occasion. I’m happy shopping at my local thrift shops and wearing well-worn favorites. I’ve survived the long-haul of decluttering because I’ve looked after myself in the process.
And my sum total of 6 pairs of shoes? Feels like one too many.
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Emma Scheib blogs at Simple Slow & Lovely. She is a self-confessed introvert who craves the simple and slow things in life. You can also find her on Facebook.
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